By Plastic Surgeon Dr Dirk Kremer. 

Plastic surgery is improving every day, with surgeons such as myself developing new techniques such as e-lipo and my TBT facelift to achieve more subtle and natural looking results. Plastic surgery is definitely becoming more accepted due to these rapid developments in the industry; however, for many it is still a taboo topic, and some people are strongly opposed to cosmetic procedures regardless of the life-changing effects plastic surgery can have. For this reason, cosmetic surgery patients can often be put off telling family and friends that they are planning to go under the knife, or that they have already undergone surgery, by fear of a negative reaction.

Why are you worried?

Firstly, you need to ask yourself why you are so nervous about telling your loved ones about your procedure. I insist that all my patients thoroughly consider all aspects of the cosmetic procedure and the impact it will have, in order to ensure that the surgery is right for them and that it is something they are certain they want. If you have reached this point, then you would hope that your family and friends will understand that you are serious about having the procedure, and will support your well-informed decision.

Who are you telling about your surgery?

Telling someone about a cosmetic procedure is completely dependent on the relationship you have with that person. If it is a close family member or a spouse, then I advise being honest from the start, as not only are they likely to wonder what’s going on when you disappear for a few days and come back looking different, you will also need their support physically and psychologically after undergoing a major – or even minor - cosmetic procedure.

If you have children, plastic surgery can be a difficult topic to bring up, as you wouldn't want your young child to feel as if they need the surgery too - particularly as undergoing cosmetic surgery is a complex, highly individual choice which should made only when adult, if ever. Even if you don’t decide to tell your children the nature of your operation, you should let them know that you are having surgery so that they know to expect a change, potential bandaging and bruising.

It is not always essential to inform work colleagues of your having plastic surgery (excluding your boss who may need to know if you are taking time off), however, noticeable changes may leave co-workers feeling unsure how to react or whether they should ask, so a brief word with those working closely with you can put everyone at ease. If you choose to have procedures such as my TBT eyelift or TBT facelift, you may not even have to tell them anything, as all they would see is their colleague looking better than ever, refreshed and rested.

What cosmetic procedure(s) are you having?

For more invasive procedures such as breast augmentation, rhinoplasty and facelifts, there is more of a need to let people know compared to less invasive procedure such as Botox or fillers. This is because the results will be more noticeable and for most major procedures you will require support from those close to you during your recovery.

So what do you do if your family and friends are against your decision?

Unfortunately, after you've plucked up the courage to tell family or friends about your decision, for whatever reason, some people may still be against your choice. Everyone will have a different viewpoint on the surgery, so it is important to remember your own wants and needs and not to let anyone dissuade or influence your decision. I frequently say that people shouldn't undergo plastic surgery to please a third party, and likewise, if you've made an informed decision to have aesthetic surgery, you shouldn't be talked out of it by a friend or loved one. You must remember that your announcement will probably come as a bit of a shock as your friends and family are likely to think you are perfect the way you are. Just be patient and allow them to come to terms with your surgery plans in their own time, and be open with them by explaining your reasons for having the cosmetic procedure.

What if there still isn't anyone you feel comfortable telling?

If you still feel uncomfortable telling a friend or loved one about your surgery, then remember that your surgeon will be happy to offer you support and talk you through the whole process, from before the operation to the aftercare. The extensive care offered by your surgeon is essential and highlights the importance of choosing a practitioner who is highly qualified and reputable to ensure that your experience is a happy and fulfilling one. To book a consultation at Harley Street Aesthetics or to simply find out more about the procedures available, get in touch with us via email, phone: 0845 519 7232, or fill in an online enquiry form.